Soft Life, Hard Skills: What That Actually Looks Like in Business

The phrase “soft life” gets tossed around a lot: brunches, travel, mornings that start at 10 AM with a fancy drink in hand. And yes, I love ease. I love slow mornings, pasta every week, walks with my dog, and days when work doesn’t swallow my entire life.

But here’s the part that rarely makes the highlight reel: the softness only works because the hard skills are in place.

For me, “soft life” doesn’t mean doing nothing. It means designing a business that creates space… and that space doesn’t come without structure.

The Soft Life Side

I protect small rituals that make my days feel full, not just busy:

  • Blocking my calendar for walking phone chats and bike rides.
  • Making dinner without rushing
  • Letting myself read something non-fiction that has nothing to do with work.
  • Creating breathing room so I can show up for family, travel, or just rest.

These are the things that make life feel softer and the space I fight to protect.

The Hard Skills That Make It Possible

What most people don’t see behind the soft life moments are the systems and strategies keeping it all together:

  • Execution strategy: Knowing what to prioritize and when.
  • Clarity frameworks: Moving through decisions without spiraling.
  • Systems: Tools like Dubsado, Showit, Canva, and Flodesk that keep my work flowing.
  • Boundaries: Saying no when I need to, and letting “later” actually mean later.

Without these, the “soft” quickly slips into stress.

Why This Balance Matters

Soft life without hard skills can look like avoidance.

Hard skills without soft life can look like burnout.

I’m not choosing one over the other. I’m building both.

So when I say “Soft Life, Hard Skills,” I’m talking about a rhythm that’s sustainable.
A way of working and living that feels sustainable, guilt-free, and deeply mine.


✨ If you’re ready to practice your own version, start small. Ask yourself: what’s one ritual you can protect this week? And what’s one system or skill you can lean on to make that ritual possible?

Because the truth is: the soft life feels better when your hard skills have your back.

💌 Want an even quicker way to start? Try Clarity Lite: a free 5-minute reset I built for the days when life feels anything but soft.